I’m glad you managed to get in touch with your biological family I know that’s important to you.

I’m sorry your friend doesn’t show empathy in your situation. She doesn’t sound to me like she truly understands where you’re coming from. Maybe she needs to listen to you more closely, if you choose to continue the friendship. You’d have to way up the benefits and costs of remaining friends with her.

As for your mother asking you the annoying questions that you’ve researched thoroughly and you’re making an informed decision moving forward - it reminds me so much of my mother. She’s always playing worst case scenario in her head and it can get quite demoralising if I don’t take a step back and remind my that this is her negative way of thinking.