Hmmm, good question. I do think that cyber/phone sex is wrong. It is a betrayal. I don't think sexual talk or flirting is wrong. We all flirt in one way or another. See an attractive person somewhere and we make eye contact. A little smile, wink or even a nod of the head is a flirt depending on what your thoughts are at the time. It happens all the time, every day. We are naturally attracted to good looking people.

I call women sweetie, cutie, hon, babe or kid depending on how well I know them. I wouldn't call a complete stranger that though. Sometimes the endearment terms are used to help the person feel better about themselves. I use them to get their attention when I am in a conversation.

I counsel people in relationships that are going badly or they are not getting along. I try to get them to talk about their troubles and sometimes it leads to sexual comments. Lots of women don't feel good about their bodies in one way or another. I point out their good traits. We all have good traits.

Most of my counsel is online and my wife dosen't care to know about it. She knows I counsel and she knows it is relationship and she knows it can get sexual. She also knows that I wouldn't ever let anything get too far. I try to build ego up in people, especially women. I think men have unrealistic expectations of the women in their lives, especailly after the thrill of the pursuit is over and they have been together for a while and have children, etc.

So, yes, online and phone sex are wrong. The person that is doing that has something missing in their life. It may not even be with their current spouse or partner. They have a missing character trait and that is what needs to be corrected.

Hope this helps to clarify the issue.

Have a great weekend, I'm going to the campground with my wife and the cat to spend 3-4 days together. There is something about that travel trailer that gets my wife excited in a way I like. I can't wait to get there.