Your amazing in the way you described this If I did not know better I would think your describing me as I also have Bipolar.I spend all my time working at undoing damage caused when in mania episodes.i always remind myself my wife and family suffer this illness along with me. I get frustrated because an episode can cause great damage in a short time that people become resentful. I set up calendars that show when I'm outside my norm. My family is fully educated when not to take things to heart. I work extra hard trying to undo any damage I caused when outside these episodes. My therapist is trained in both Bipolar and marriage therapy. She has really made a big impact in explaining to others what I experience. It helps heal and put things in the past. I feel so sorry for my wife that she must withstand these behaviors.