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Originally Posted by Molinit
If you are already in therapy, please get a different therapist. If not, therapy would be a good place to help you work through this.
I think a number of people have already told you this person is not treating you well and no amount of ruminating on why will help him be better. Relationships shouldn't be this hard. He is not treating you in an acceptable manner and that is it. You seem like you're trying to make this okay in your mind or find the key that unlocks the "puzzle" that is him. He's not a puzzle. His actions say everything about him.
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Okay, so.
I was not asking about whether this person is treating me well.
I was asking very specific questions about existing bad behaviours.
You - or anyone else - can be supportive by answering those questions and by simply letting me try and talk about this relationship on here.
In whatever way I try to talk about it.
If you feel too impatient to answer my questions or otherwise engage with my posts, you are not required to engage.
Thanks much for your understanding.
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I realise in my OP I asked for advice too, so I will clarify now that I am no longer looking for advice. What I'm looking for is:
- Answers or options for interpretations to my questions I ask.
- A chance to talk about my observations of this relationship. Sometimes maybe about emotions too.
- Any perspectives that do not tell me what to do & and that do not tell me what I'm thinking or what my intention is. I would not like to hear anything like that.
(It's OK to say what you'd do if you were in my place, but just please do not tell me what to do, like things like go to a different therapist or to dump the bf right here and now and so on.)