I had another thought, too. I've seen you post in Dear T wondering when Art T will get back to you. Is she fairly inconsistent in when and how she responds? Like does she sometimes respond that day, sometimes take a day or two? Or maybe not at all? Or is it sometimes really brief, other times longer?

Just wondering because I think part of what led to so much attachment to my ex-marriage counselor was that he was very unpredictable in how and when he'd respond to emails and return phone calls. So it was a sort of intermittent reinforcement--like with mouse studies that found when mice sometimes get a treat for stepping on a button and sometimes they don't, and it makes them press the button more compared to those who always or never get a treat (hopefully I'm explaining that correctly!). So if you never know when or how she'll respond, perhaps that contributes to the attachment? Can you email with your regular T?

Dr. T is fairly consistent in replying to emails in the morning, so if I send something the day before, it's not until the next morning that he'll reply. But he's also very predictable in doing so, which I think eased my attachment a bit. Then he randomly starting replying to me in the evening sometimes, so then it would be like, "Maybe he'll write back tonight? Oh, it's 9 pm, he won't reply till the morning now I guess." But that seemed to intensify the attachment some. Now he's back to mainly replying in the mornings, except a couple weeks ago, when he accidentally deleted my email so didn't reply, and I was a bit frantic by noon that day.

Anyway, just something else to consider.