I may forgive my abuser,if she comes clean agrees she did what she did.I do not even need an apology from her.All it takes for her is to just validate my experiences and my suffering. A couple of times I tried that in a subtle way.Not those incidents for which there are no witnesses( She was smart enough to abuse in sneaky ways while no one else was watching).There are some incidents where others were present and they know something happened but they know it differently. So I tried to get her to acknowledge those.She blatantly denied and said my memory is playing tricks on me.So she will never give me a closure....can't forgive her.There was a lot of anger and resentment seething in me.I have processed and calmed down a bit.There is a constant sadness and grief now.It may take a lifetime to heal.I will not be able to forgive or forget .