I hear you, but I still don't really see why she would say that in response to a question about what being here for you meant though. Like I said, it seems like a really poor choice of words to me. I would say talk about it. Most of my upsets with Ex T were sorted out by talking. Mainly I had misconstrued what she was saying. It's VERY easy to twist words negatively, and you aren't even doing it, it just happens, we can't help it.

Not sure if you read my post about my Old T and her email, but take that for example. I could have sworn it was shutting me out, walking away from me, her angry and upset with me. I asked, and we cleared it all up, and then when I read it back today, I didn't see any of the things I saw the first time I read it!!

Not sure if that helps or not, but I hope so. It's a blooming hard road healing from childhood wounds and I really feel your pain. You aren't too much. You are never too much. If other people can't meet your needs then they aren't enough... for you!