I have a friend I've known for over ten years. We are long distance friends. A couple years ago she and I had a serious conflict about disrespecting me and my boundaries, and now she is falling into the same pattern.

For the past three months, she ignores my calls and texts for days at a time and sometimes for a week at a time. And then, she'll call and call incessantly even if I tell her more than once it's not a good time to call because I'm busy or in the middle of something or working.

And she blows up my phone with multiple texts at a time. That's a problem she's always had and it drives me nuts. When she wants to text me she'll send five or seven one line texts in a row, so no matter where I am or what I'm doing it's bing-bing-bing-bing-bing-bing-bing.

And now she's getting into the habit of only calling me when she has nothing better to do AND THEN she'll have nothing to say, or sound bored or annoyed with me before the conversation even starts, or she'll start singing and humming on the phone. I don't like feeling like I'm the person you call when no one else is available, and I don't like feeling like I'm here to entertain her when she's bored.

And what I really hate is that for almost every phone call, especially when she first calls me, she puts me on hold for a minute, for several times in each phone call, and often times she'll say "I gotta go" and hang up on me. It is really disrespectful when I do want to talk or when she calls me and hangs up on me or puts me on hold. Or when she calls me while having a conversation with someone in the room with her. It's rude.

I don't want to end the friendship, but I want to take a break from her until she relearns the boundaries. I have the blessing of the "no phones allowed" rule at work, but I should be able to go about my day and not feel constantly harrassed or have my boundaries crossed. I don't want a million texts or calls every day when it's inconvenient for me, and I shouldn't have to put my phone on DND when I have other people in my life I'd like to hear from or if I'm expecting calls from work or businesses. And like I said, I'll tell her when I'm busy and when I'm ready to talk, but she'll still call and text and then I get no response from her when I call or text--she'll simply ignore me.

What should I do? How should I handle this? I'm really upset by her behavior especially when she's crossed my boundaries before. I don't know what to say to her.