I am sorry that you are in that situation. To be honest, I am in a very similar situation. For the sake of my mental health, I have had to limit contact with my mother: visits, telephone calls, text messages and such. Otherwise, I will start to get into a depression again.

There are many books and articles on the Internet about how to set boundaries. These did not work so well for me though although I am sure they have really helped other people. I wish I had some good advice to offer, but sadly I don't. Hopefully others here on the Forums will see your post and respond with useful ideas! So very sorry I could not be helpful to you in this. I hope things work out for you. My heart really goes out to you!