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Originally Posted by WovenGalaxy
You sound like a friend who cares. When I'm angry with someone, a friend, for instance, but also care about the relationship, I feel the same way - trying to find a way to express my feelings and concerns to them in a way that won't be full of my anger. What about...doing the opposite? So like when you talk to her, say it with gentleness, and telling her you value her friendship a lot, and then asking for what you would like from her. Its important to you and your needs are valid. I think its also natural in long term friendships, relationships, etc, to have conflict. I think its awesome that you are looking for a healthy and kind way to approach this.
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Her and I are both caring friends...and neither of us are good at confrontation. Last time I brought it up to her I was not in a good place and told her I'm really upset by her actions and listed the things she has been doing and gave her a timeline of how long I needed a break. It turned into a fight and she put it back on me of how annoying I was and how I'm the rude one...we gave it a week and she and I calmed down and we both apologized and we told each other we will work on respecting each other more.
I like LL's suggestion as well as yours. Last time there was another factor that I won't discuss but I think gentle honesty is the way to go.