I’m so sorry tecomsin that you’ve had such negative experiences with Zoom meetings. That doesn’t sound right, they’re supposed to be safe places.
I have to admit I’ve never tried one- partly because I’m worried I’ll see someone I know and partly because of my anxiety.

Would it be possible before joining another to email or converse with the facilitator to let them know of your previous experiences and to ask for support if something or someone is rude or not very nice to you. I realise you shouldn’t have to do that, but I’m just trying to think of something you could do to help. But it may help to know for sure that you have their support?

Have you ever been to group therapy before in person? I’m just wondering how it compares?

Anyway I hope you find a zoom meeting that is helpful for you!