I think I statements would go over really well. She and I are the kind of people who blames ourselves as also at fault even if the other person is in the wrong...so if I were to use I statements and even say, yes, I know I do the same thing too, it would hurt her less than to come off as she is the only one making these mistakes...

So I think the next time she texts or calls me I'll say something like, "Hey, friend, I've been going through a lot and I need some space. I feel really overwhelmed with the move and things going on at work, and I know we have opposite schedules but when you call it's been at really inconvenient times and I know we can't always help that but sometimes I just want time to myself without being on my phone. Lately when my phone goes off it gives me such bad anxiety and I just need to chill for a while until I'm in a better place. I'll let you know when I'm ready to have girl talk again but maybe for the next month I just want things to be low key."

Thank you so much for your help!