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Originally Posted by Mendingmysoul
Is your mom overprotective of you? Sometimes these kind of mothers can be paranoid about their children's decisions and tend to worry too much.They think their children can not survive on their own and that their intervention is a must.They may sometimes become judgemental of their children's decisions.May not mean any harm but can be very overbearing to adult children.You said you are close to her and she is helpful in ways.She is having a hard time to realize that you can make good decisions for yourself and you have grown up now.Others have given good advice.You need to slowly start not sharing every detail about you.Sometimes a relationship between mother and daughter becomes too enmeshed if allowed tobe.You need your boundaries. Specially about your relationship with your boyfriend.
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I think she can be overprotective and a worrier. She might have gotten that trait from her own father. I agree. She even made a comment about my relationship on the phone, saying "your boyfriend does not spend that much time with you", (we live a bit of a distance from each other and make it work in a way that works out for both of us. It would definitely be nice for us to be together more, but we are not yet at the point of moving in together).
I feel so much of what she says makes me either stressed or sad, so I think I need to share less. The mother day I was keeping stuff from her, and she said she was surprised I was being uncommunicative and said, "what's with you?" Maybe she sees me as not being capable enough; I don't know...