The way I look at it is that I some events we really are victims and can’t really do anything about changing that. Things happen to us without out participation. Like car being hit when you sit at the red light doing nothing wrong. But in some other aspects we are in charge of some outcomes so we can learn lessons and try to apply those lessons to our future endeavors. That’s how I look at it. What could you learn if anything

The other thing helps is to think that it could always be worse. Whatever bad things happen they could be always worse. Somebody always has it worse.

Then pretty much idea behind Serenity prayer too. Like accept things you can’t control and change the ones you can.