Yes they are, there is no caring/love or true friendship without passion /compassion ,which will result in conflict from time to time, this is" Growth" ,,,,,-- BUT , BUT, BUT.- only you can make the judgement as to how much conflict is worthwhile,, nobody else can answer that

sorry if this all sounds obvious ,academic and impersonal, but I hope it helps,,,,,,

what is life without friendships, they are everything,

hope things get resolved,,,
speak your mind , voice your heart..,,look at your own expectations and desires..