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Originally Posted by Rive.
I think you are already feeling it. It seems you are trying to rationalise his behaviour i.e. engaging your head when you felt sense is screaming 'this ain't right'...
Otherwise, if you felt things were okay or this was a good enough relationship, you would not question anything and the answer would be clear. Your doubts, your 'icky' feeling or feeling something is not, or may not, be right - that is your felt sense. That is the sense alerting you to 'danger'. I would listen to that.
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I'll respond to this again. I think my internal state is characterised better as a state of extreme detachment and avoidance standing right at the point where it's probably very, very dangerous to go on from in some directions, hence waiting to be oriented first. Wanting to find in time where the danger is, because it's all opaque now.
Couples therapy with the approach I've just described sounds and feels right to me. I'm like, I'm
completely *unwilling* to move in any direction unless I can go through that route first.
Thanks everyone for letting me talk about it here and reminding myself of this very important point.