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Originally Posted by poshgirl
What an amazing trip you're planning. Maybe your mother is a little jealous as well as over-protective. Unfortunately, some mothers do not recognise when to let go.
When you reach a certain age, she does not need to know everything. She is unfairly judging your relationship possibly against her own experiences and how things were done "in her day".
A few years ago, to celebrate a significant birthday, I suggested to my mother and aunt (her sister) that we went on a cruise together. She went along with the idea then suddenly said she couldn't bear the thought of sharing a cabin with me. So I withdrew the suggestion and booked 10 days in the Caribbean on my own. She then spent the time up to departure telling me I shouldn't do it.
If you are happy to do this trip with your boyfriend, regardless of your living arrangements, then go ahead. Enjoy the experience and maybe send her cards or photos from the places you visit.  |
Thank you
She went as far as looking up an article on the downsides of going there, because she says she doesn't want me to regret spending the money or the time. I don't think it's so much jealousy, but more so her being a worrier and wanting to control everything from afar because perhaps she does not trust my ability to plan something as good as the way she does things. I think this has really contributed to my anxiety and feelings of inadequacy like I can't do things as well as she can.