Your mom sounds overbearing. Her behavior indicates to me, that she has way too much control and say in your life...because you have co-created that pattern with her, by sharing your plans about your life so openly. Here's the thing: you do not need your mom's approval. You are an adult. You can do whatever you want with your life.

I'm learning to stop sharing my life's plans with toxic family members. It's hard to break the pattern but I'm working on breaking that pattern. To take my power back. I would suggest that you consider that every relationship we have with another person has a cost and a benefit to us. The cost is what we give up. The benefit is what we gain.

What is the cost to your life when you share your plans with your mom and she jumps in to poo-poo your plans and tries to guilt you into doing things her way? What is the benefit to your life when you grey rock your mom with your plans and just respond with a vague reference repeatedly, even when your mom ramps up her guilt tripping statements to emotionally bait you?