Reading this makes me feel less alone. I recently found out from a cousin on social media that my uncle/godfather died a year ago! No one told me or my brother. My father and sister both knew.

Interestingly, I probably had been in most frequent contact with him. We used to message back and forth, sharing pictures and what was going on in our lives. Then, suddenly the messages stopped. I didn't think to ask my dad if something had happened to him, since I figured he would have said something. My sister doesn't want me to bring it up with my dad for some reason.

I am taking a break from contact with both of them, I am so mad. I will speak to my brother since he was also left in the dark.

Anyways, I don't blame you for being mad. They should have told you about her mom, especially since it sounds like you had a good relationship with her.