I've been thinking about this a lot lately....how much energy one must expend when dating and meeting prospective men...(or women)...men, in my case. When you meet someone for the first time, thinking "maybe," there is this whole thing of mutual scrutinizing, assessing. It's exhausting...the thought of it to me.
Maybe it's sour grapes now, my way of rationalizing not doing it anymore, and staying "safe," but I sure do enjoy being solo these days, and free of the anxiety I experienced in dating over the past 10 years since my divorce.
Honestly, there has also been a grieving period during all of this, since I had hoped to find a devoted friend, lover, mate....kind of like i was programmed toward this. It didn't happen, and now the energy and risk toward that seems too great.
Does anyone else here identify, or have words of wisdom?
Patty