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Old Feb 08, 2022, 04:56 PM
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Originally Posted by SummerTime12 View Post
I totally understand being able to share faster with a second T once you’ve shared before. I shared much earlier on with my previous T than I did with a past T with whom I shared some trauma. It seems to get easier as it’s repeated, but I guess maybe that’s the point. I think where it’s difficult is when someone has a bad experience with a T and it makes it hard to trust again. I feel like I’m somewhere in the middle because he was a great T for many years before things got weird. I guess it’s a little similar to your situation with ex-MC in a way, as it made you anxious after sharing with your current T because you were afraid he’d have the same reaction in the end. Although I could be way off.

I used to write things down for my previous T. It’s always a good idea, but I don’t think I’m ready for that yet with this T. She’s definitely trying to get some general ideas of what’s happened—I basically told her I had a bad experience with my last T. She wanted to know the ages when I had trauma, but I just couldn’t bring myself to say it. I just kind of gave a vague response like “some of it happened before middle school” and “there were multiple things.” Idk why it’s so difficult.
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You're right that I was afraid of him having a similar reaction to ex-MC. Particularly considering he's a male who's slightly older than me. At least with your new T being female, I imagine she might not have the same concerns.

As for both the trauma and the stuff about your ex-T, it makes total sense that it's difficult for you to share right away, that you'd want to build up a bit of trust first. Do you have any sense of what might you feel more ready? For example, are you worried about being judged? About her thinking your trauma wasn't that big of a deal compared to some other stories she's heard? That she won't want to work with you any more? It could help to tell her what's holding you back (or even just to say "something is holding me back, but I don't know what").
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