Have you ever barfed in public? I have. George Bush Sr. barfed right in the Japanese prime minister's lap once on tv. As mortifying as it feels, and even though everyone feels put off to some degree by the unbecoming event, everyone manages to understand. And even the barfer is able, embarrassment and all, to get to the place of understanding it was sickness as opposed to personal expression.

I'm not saying you barfed on me. I'm saying it is of no more personal consequence to me than if you had. It's an expression of illness. I understand that, and I am not suffering from hurt over it.

I want both to publicly accept your apology and to say that i do not feel it is owed to me. I've worked very hard to identify my own self separately from the symptoms of my illness. A natural extension of that exploration is to be able to identify you as separate from your symptoms.

Peace.