A good doctor isn't going to scold you. They may remind you to use protection next time you have sex, but I wouldn't take that as a scolding.

Just tell the doc what you've said here -- you want all the STD testing.

Unfortunately, herpes can be spread with apparent symptoms and without. There does not have to be an "active" outbreak for contagion to occur.

I hope all your tests are negative!
Best,
Okie