Sorry you are in that situation. Must be so stressful! Situations like the one you mentioned have a lot of nuances and intangible dimensions to them, things that perhaps could not be committed to writing. I don't feel competent to give advice. Perhaps if I were closer to the situation, I would be able to weigh the pros and cons better and take into consideration the intangible factors. I wouldn't want to give you bad advice. Sometimes there are unintended and even unforeseen consequences that can occur with such decisions as you face.

I do hope you find a decision that you can live with and which has the best possible outcome. Maybe others here with more knowledge, experience and insight will prove more helpful to you. So sorry that I cannot be helpful to you in this!

PS: How does your daughter want things to be handled . . . and other family members?