I have an emotional support person who'se been an AA sponsor for decades and says he has lots of experience dealing with people with mental illness. I don't have a drinking problem myself. I used to have a cannabis addiction but have been clean for months. We have had this type of relationship for over 5 years but I am thinking of ending it.

When I texted him that I left a Zoom support meeting for depression and bipolar after feeling insulted by a woman who told me she "can't stand people who complain about their kids", after i was done sharing about the anxiety I have regarding my son, he texted me back that "Again, that was your thinking that did you in." I am wondering what people think of that response.

This doesn't feel like support to me but like he is blaming me for leaving the meeting. When I asked him how my thinking was responsible for what this woman said to me he said I was being stubborn and refused to see any alternative interpretations rather than that she was insulting me.

I don't have a lot of support in my life so I am reluctant to cut him off but I've found his remarks to be upsetting and make me doubt myself and feel bad. He also has made numerous racists remarks to me involving stereotypes of different ethnicities and I remember once on a mall walk vociferously complained about a white woman with an interracial child as if there were something wrong with that. This is the same person who invited me to a nudist event several years ago. After that I stopped seeing him in person.

For now I've decided to cut back on zoom mental health support group meetings and to take a break from texting with this person. I've also been to some zoom chronic pain support group meetings, but I often end up leaving early because people start talking at length about their nausea and vomiting and this makes me feel sick to my stomach. It's one of those topics I don't tolerate well.

I've also been to some ptsd zoom support meeting but end up being triggered by the experiences that are shared and end up leaving early as well.