Good post. I've found similar, medical folks have not been - or couldn't be - interested in causes.

little turtle is one of the exceptions, it must be very hard to ''survive'' as a medic in that field for decades... if sensitive and compassionate.. so much suffering

Like you Rohag, when I was very young, I was ''impressed'' by those who are/were ''very intelligent''..... like the PU (Paternal Unit)..... shame he was NOT Emotionally Intelligent

Now I value kindness more than someone who claims they are a VIP like he did ( a very important person and way too Superior to have a ''bear cub'' like me.....

actually I did ONCE read a very sad letter he had penned. Occasionally, very occasionally, he would be ''kind''... in WRITING but not spoken words...

the words said

''you and your beautiful baby are too good for me''

he was at the time of my birth having one of his MANY affairs.....

He did not stop having affairs...

the Maternal Unit was ''disappointed'' in me when I was born

She stopped ''pushing'' me out of the womb

She put me on tranquilisers (prescribed by a doctor) at age NINE MONTHS

''because I ''kept'' crying''

when she was trying to wean me...

I was taken OUT OF NAPPIES

at age ONE

''because I had a fat tummy''

I was such a ''disappointment'' to the covert Narcissist the Maternal Unit and the grandiose N the Paternal Unit

Do not even get me started on the Step Maternal Unit

It could possibly be... that the ''nice'' member of the family becomes the scapegoat, I don't think I was the ''terrible'' person that all that ''family'' including a poisonous aunt or two thought I was...

Why oh why did I post all that...

Much love to all those who have ears and listen without too many mean and inaccurate judgments (as my PUS - parental units did over decades)