Yes. With current T, but old T several years ago was wonderful. T made the assumption I wanted to terminate without discussing with me & sent me an email stating she saw I attempted to schedule my next session and listed referrals (who weren't accepting new clients). She called me once while I was at work, no voicemail, and 15-20 min later sent that email. Had a session where I was upset & left a few minutes early. Then the following week I cancelled d/t a doctor's appt. I noticed I hadn't received any reminders for the upcoming session. I went to the portal and there wasn't one scheduled. I didn't think too much of it because the news was going on about the blizzard like weather that was supposed to start later that week (a few hours before session) & lots of places were already closing days ahead. I tried calling yesterday, but T emailed me again late last night. I didn't want to partake in lengthy email conversation, so I called, and she called me back.
I was thinking about discontinuing therapy with T anyway- never felt connected or productive. What pushed me over the edge- lack of communication. There was no voicemail, email, text, message in the "client portal", etc. If there was simply one of those forms of communication where T simply said, "Hey I know you left upset & missed a session. I wanted to check and see if you wanted to continue therapy." would have been all I needed to try again. Even if old T did something like this, which she didn't, I would have tried again, because our overall relationship was that good.