Hi Soupe du jour, at the group where this happened the facilitator states in his introduction that it is a safe space to vent or cry or share whatever one wants to share and many people have vented there during the time i attended it. I don't really feel like i was venting but even if someone interpreted it that way it was a stated purpose of the group to be able to do that. I found in what you wrote yet another rationalization to blame me for what happened, saying I chose the wrong venue to share my experience and anxiety regarding my son's problems, or that support groups aren't set up to share issues with parenting., while many people in that group had shared issues they had around parenting, but somehow for me that was unacceptable.

My experience is that when older women do the same thing everyone else is doing they are singled out for criticism. And when they are mistreated people like to find rationalizations to blame them for what happened. It's called blaming the victim.

Yeah Fuzzybear he did invite me to a nudist event several years ago. He's married. I don't know what was up with that but I didn't see him in person afterwards, except one time he came to my house to look at something on the outside that I needed help with. I didn't invite him indoors and it was a short visit. If I knew how to find another support person I would do it. I contacted the local mental health association looking for peer support but they only do email or you can call during specific times, a few hours a day.. However you don't get a peer support person assigned to you, you just get whoever is available, so it isn't really any good kind of peer support in the end, with someone who actually gets to know your personal situation. In the meantime I am kind of stuck with him or no one. I've decided to let it go for now without breaking any bridges. I'm just not contacting him. Maybe i never will again.