I don't know how many chances I'd give my T. I've only ever had this one, the other two I saw ended after a session or two for much less than a real rupture.

I just had a huge issue with my T a week ago. He first told me we could talk in a few hours, then texted me an hour later, saying he'd have to see another client instead. He later on was able to reschedule the call and together with my session it was enough to get me through mostly. Now, we're working on some things that should help make the next time more bearable. It triggers my fear of abandonment a lot, regardless of the exact reason of him having to cancel, and things like this will always happen. I trust him enough that I can forgive him.

We just talked about it again today, and both of us kind of agree that part of therapy is just waiting for these kind of things to happen. It's different if you're just telling somebody about issues you have in other relationships than if they happen in the relationship between you two. If my T wasn't able to help with resolving those, I'd probably not give him a lot of chances though.