My Support Forums - View Single Post

CANDC · Feb 11, 2022, 02:11 PM

Hi @FrozenHeart21 - glad you joined the MSF My Support Forums' Community. It sounds like you have had someone take you to places you were not ready to go.

You seem to see the red flags in hindsight. That is a normal way that we learn lessons. Maybe next time you can set boundaries in your mind and enforce them. Learn to not only say no but if they insist then just leave and go home. It is best to not meet in private places. Public places can be safer with other people around. Talk to your parents about this person and see if they would invite them over. Another red flag is if someone does not want to meet your parents.

As far as telling them what happened, I think that can wait for a long time down the road. You might explain if they want a physically intimate relationship that you are not ready for that. To me, one of the biggest mistakes I made was treating people I was dating as therapists. When I finally had a therapist I realized that what I really needed was a therapist. I could tell them everything and they could help me pick up the pieces and go on.

Hope you get the support you are looking for. @CANDC