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Old May 24, 2008, 12:05 PM
destinysmiles destinysmiles is offline
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I know this thread is a little old but i couldn't help but respond I am getting out of an unhealthy relationship with an extremely jealous person. I am not a jealous person at all. I don;t believe in jealousy. I guess I've always felt if my man is going to cheat on me there nothing I can do about it, I have to trust or i will go crazy. He on the other had questions every move i make it drives me nuts accussations and makes up things he thinks will catch me in lies it's exhausting. I have never found any of it flattering. I thought I could change him just get him to see i love him enough yeah right it only got worse, he had me to the point where i walk around looking at the ground cause in his mind I was sizing up every guy that walked by me, wow he was so off base it really blew me away I actually thought he was kidding. I never looked at other guys I was crazy about him, but god his accusations and insecurities cut me off from everything, I never could stop at the store if I didn't tell him and god forbid I didn't hear my cell phone ring I was hooking up with another guy. He had me making it with every guy I knew it was repulsive. I always knew my self esteem wasn't the greatest, but in reading these forums I realize my self esteem wasn't that bad it is he who had the issues. He also views my lack of jealousy as not loving him, saying I don't care, how do you rationalize with that. I've spent 5 years trying to prove myself to this person. I realize I was healthy when I met him and I have slowly been pulled into this unhealthy relationship that I can't seem to leave because I keep hoping I will see the man I fell in love with when we first met. How do I get myself to see he never existed. He was a fake to get me to be with him.

Please don't ever believe jealousy is a good thing