So I ended up telling my last remaining friend in the world... her reaction? My fault. ''

Seriously what is it with everyone? Apparently it is my job to immediately make a woman feel better who didn't bother to tell me anything. Because that is the "right thing to do"... um.. no.

My friend says "Your brother could have told them something like he told you but you didn't respond."

Right, and so one else in the family would say anything at all? That doesn't happen unless they have been asked not to.

She goes you have nothing to lose, but, apparently has a stubborn learning block when I told her that I do have something to lose... if my SIL chooses to divorce my brother (and this would be the time) and we are still in "contact" he could show up here with all his stuff and push his way in. Forcing me to have a nasty scene calling the cops OR just let him live with me for the rest of my days... now that he has cut off contact and I presumably have no idea... he will likely not choose here first.

He does not respect bounderies so why would I try to reestablish contact when I am going to get nothing out of it and only could end up being used?

Advice is so bad lately. When people show you who they are, believe them.