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Originally Posted by TunedOut
I am not sure why she is saying harsh things (do you know her?)--IMO, some people (there are other reasons too but this is one I've experienced) have angry outbursts because they are upset within (it might not be about others but they are unhappy). I am getting better at not reacting to this--that I would feel like I needed to say something back to a person when they have an outburst would make them even more upset--sometimes the best thing to do can be nothing but listen and to take time out from the person when it gets to be too much (when able).
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No she’s not a mutual friend at all, I think from what he says that he believes that he is one of the few men she trusts and this is why she expresses anger readily towards him - because she feels safe. It’s complex. I sort of understand it but my friend has been stressed and unhappy recently and I don’t like seeing that. He’s had health problems and needs to take care of himself.
I have always listened and not passed judgement when he’s spoken about it but I’m finding it harder to stay neutral recently. I do understand she has issues but I also think she should be more considerate of him.