Hi all, I am a 45 year old male with a 7 year old child who has just been told by my wife that she wants to separate because I haven’t been paying her enough attention. I know this to be true because I have been so wrapped up in my stressful job and planning ahead for our retirement together that I really lost focus on the now. She tells me that she has already come to terms with it but I am struggling. Currently she wants us to carry on as normal and see if we can be friends first then she may let me back in but I’m not sure if this so I can adjust to the idea. I feel so ashamed that I have caused this, that I cannot bring myself to tell my friends or family. Should I just start preparing/making plans for a divorce or should I stick around hoping I can show her I can change? I can really do with some advice because I don’t want to be in this situation if their is no chance of a reprise.