Yes I had this happen, but maybe in a different way? I imagined my T to be a certain way for ages. But it wasn't really a positive fantasy for me, so the more I got to know him the better and more human he seemed.

Sometimes I get annoyed that he didn't tell me these things in the beginning, or that he doesn't tell me even more stuff, but I know he just doesn't want to spend our sessions talking about himself. Even though I'm interested in who he is, as I don't feel like I really know who other people in my life are. Like when I was growing up, my mum was empty and distant, my dad was leading a double life I only found out the extent of in my 20s. So my T fantasy fell away bit by bit, and I'm happy about that.