It really doesn’t sound like you’re in the wrong, here - you’re walking on eggshells over things most people don’t have huge issues with. It sounds as if she sets you up to fail, also, though I can’t really work out a possible motive for that. What I meant by setting you up to fail is she gave you permission to ask the “forbidden questions”, then got mad at you for doing so.
You can’t win the games she invites you to play - and if you thought you could, the goalposts would be moved. Don’t question yourself any more - this would drive anyone crazy.