Your post is so true!
Hypocrisy, being two-faced; call it what you will. I've also experienced this and from a close relative too. In fact, the very person who as a parent is responsible for teaching you the difference between right and wrong. Also, if you have a sibling, to apply the same rules to them. In this case, I've called it emotional blindness.
Challenging is a lost cause, so I've just accepted that it happens. What goes around, comes around as the saying goes.