Thank you for all the feedback, and a lot of great points here.

As I stated in my other thread, based on what I've explained to my psychologist over the last 11mos, she does believe my ex could have borderline personality disorder, or at least bi-polar disorder (which runs in her family, yet she refuses to get diagnosed for some reason). Both of them could explain the unpredictable mood swings, and extreme change of personality (when happy vs when angry).

She struggled between blaming me, and accepting she has issues too. Depended on the day. Sometimes, she'd put nearly all of it on me. Other days, she would admit she had things to work on.

But like many of you have said, the goods aren't worth the bad. The abuse was unacceptable to me, and it could be months or even years before that changes with her counseling. That is IF it even changes. She's had counseling in the past, and said it did her no good (that they just parrot back to you what you already know and other criticisms). Who knows how receptive she'll be this time and for how long. I'm sure all it will take is her counselor telling her something she doesn't want to hear, and she will begin dismissing her.

Either way, not my problem anymore. I know I deserve better. And it was one thing when she was actively working on it and improving. But, her regression from her depression showed me that more likely than not, I would always have to deal with some bouts of abuse here and there, depending on her mental state. I hoped she'd change, but I don't think she can.