@otroo:

So glad that the grief share looks like it will be helpful. That is funny about the no dating rule! It's good you could see the humor in it. You sound like a very sensitive and loving soul when you talk about your wife. I know it's not the same thing but i am divorced and there's this thing that's a symbol of my divorce that comes up in pop culture and at first i was destroyed every time it came up. One day i noticed the symbol came up and i didn't react to it at all. Be patient and gentle and give yourself time to grieve and mourn and one day you will heal, like me.