View Single Post
Fuzzybear
Wisest Elder Ever
 
Fuzzybear's Avatar
 
Member Since Nov 2002
Location: Cave.
Posts: 96,331 (SuperPoster!)
21
81.2k hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Feb 16, 2022 at 07:06 PM
 
Quote:
Originally Posted by RoxanneToto View Post
This feels familiar! Most people will feel uncomfortable being around a person who is upset because often they feel helpless, which can also bring up feelings of shame and anger - this is more about them than you, but it’s almost impossible to parse those things out in the moment. It’s difficult knowing how to help the upset person, especially because there’s a risk they will lash out at us; it feels personal even when it isn’t.
On the other hand, as you’ve likely found, this is a time when other people can seem callous (or reveal their lack of empathy, depending) in an attempt to shut the other person down, so they can stop feeling uncomfortable. Not helpful or good in the short or long term for the other person.
Good post, it's extremely..... sad...... when other people are callous or reveal their lack of empathy, or both. Shutting someone down, ''bad'' in both the short and longer term. Grrrrrrrrr

__________________
Fuzzybear is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote