Just to mention my daughter is autistic and her Psychologist who has a specialty in Aspergers, just told her to get over her social anxiety and get out there and join the world so to speak. Some professionas are just winging it I believe and can be hurtful. Give yourself that break. I know that feeling when you say, you feel like you are in trouble, its confusing, because its unlikely you have done anything wrong. If they walked a mile in your shoes, they wouldnt say some to the things they can and do.