Pregnancy and the first year after having a baby is the most dangerous. Ask the judge to establish child support and a safe exchange at a safe place. Most cities now have a special place for such exchange of kids. If you think he might be violent with the child ask that he be supervised. I didn’t do that. I wanted to be fair and I took my daughter to his place. He lost his temper and bashed my windshield in with our daughter in the car! The shelter asked for supervision visits after that. If he’s threatening her record it and keep logs. Being nice will not work. I tried being nice. Fortunately the judge I got was wiser than me.