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Cardooney · Feb 18, 2022, 12:07 AM

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Originally Posted by sarahsweets

Hey @Cardooney: Im direct and blunt so please dont think I want to hurt your feelings:

Kick him out. I hate to say it but technically with the active addiction and fighting it could be seen as abusive behavior with your daughter (although how old is she?) If she is a minor it could be. If you ask him to leave and it gets heated, scary or violent call the cops. You can get a temp restraining order or they will just have him stay away for the night. You do not have to pack your stuff and leave. He should. I think you are well past the point of ultimatums. He simply does not care about managing himself why should he care about you? Speaking as an alcoholic who has been sober 9 years, when in active addiction the addict is 100 percent selfish and the only goal is whatever behaviors or substances they want. They do not care about anything else. Not you. not their kids. Only themselves. I am Bipolar II and that did not give me an excuse to keep drinking. I had some years where I was not good with my meds- and I have had to take ownership and apologize for some embarrassing behaviors even though they were related to my illness. You have to put that daughter first and that means removing the toxic person contributing to her anxiety and fears. It wont be easy but your husband has had no consequences for his actions.

Thank you.