Dear T,
I think I do need to talk to you more about the not being willing to share about vacations thing. I should have brought it up earlier in session, but D was more in the forefront of my mind, so that seemed most important. I guess I was hoping you'd give me something, even really minor, like "We're driving there" or "It's a family trip" or "Going skiing" or...something. I know it's generally been your policy, but you've relaxed so many other boundaries about disclosure that it feels jarring. Especially when you know it's something that makes me particularly anxious. Just throwing me some sort of bone would have helped like when you said--I think it was over Christmas?--that you were visiting people who were also fully vaccinated. Not saying where, or what sort of people (family vs. friends), etc.

I guess maybe it's more that we need a bigger discussion about your increased disclosures and how it feels like you're completely the one in control of them. Like if I asked you something, you might not be willing to answer, but then you'd share basically the same thing on your own. It's like a form of "Don't ask, don't tell," except it's "Don't ask, tell."

All that being said, thanks for all the support about D today and for saying that you understand it's a lot for me to deal with so it makes sense that I'm talking about it as much as I am. And for reminding me to try to avoid looking too far into the future, because I don't know what it will hold. While acknowledging that you know how difficult it is for me.

Love,
LT