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Old Feb 19, 2022, 02:54 PM
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Originally Posted by indigo1015 View Post
So here's the latest update-- I thought he was fine with it, but a few mornings later I wake up to a string of texts from him that were horribly spelled and made wild and unfair assumptions about me. I asked him if he was high, and he said, "maybe." I must admit I wasn't as empathetic as I should have been, mainly because it was early in the morning and I hadn't had enough coffee yet. For ****'s sake, I just went out on a coffee date-- and I was upfront with him before I even accepted the invitation. I really feel like this is not going to work-- I know he's had a bad series of experiences with cheating, but I am not cheating on him. And no matter how many times we've been over this since then, he still implies that he sees us as a couple. For example, we are going out tonight to celebrate my birthday, which was on Tuesday-- I told him I just wanted to meet at the restaurant instead of at his place first, and he paused and asked, "Are you breaking up with me?!" in this accusatory tone. I had to remind him there was no breaking up to be had since we had only been on two dates, which is not enough for me to determine whether or not I want to be in a relationship with someone. Then he acted like everything was fine. I'm sorry, but I don't see this working out.
Too many red flags here. He considers you as a couple after only two dates? Red flag. He's acting possessive after only two dates? Red flag. A series of harassment texts? Red flag number 3. And texting you while high or under the influence early in the morning? Red flag number 4! Run!
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Thanks for this!
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