Hi MissCharlotte, I don't know what unintegrated self states are--are you sure it is not dissociative to some extent?

I have a number of different ego states, including several versions of myself as a girl, at different ages. I have one about 4, one about 6, and one that is a teen. I also have a young adult male protector ego state. The thinking is that I created all of these as a response to childhood trauma. However, I don't have DID. I do not "lose time" and get taken over by different alters, which is one of the diagnostic criteria for DID. Does this sound similar to what you are experiencing? My therapist explained that everyone has different ego states, so that made me feel that what I experience is OK. But some ego states are more distinct and less integrated due to the trauma. I am learning to help my little girl ego states heal and also learning how to work together with the male (instead of at odds). I hope you can talk more about what you are experiencing with your therapist.