I might be wrong but I think people started questioning why OP is staying at her job if it’s treating people this way. But her staying or leaving wasn’t a topic of this thread.

Also people forget that there are many reasons to stay in a particular place especially if working for government: it’s unwise to leave when working towards state or federal pension if you are close to retirement, you will lose money if you go anywhere else, you have a particular important benefit that you’ll lose if you leave etc

Overall her staying or leaving isn’t really what she wanted to talk about. It was about “if looks matter in how people treat us”