Why do you feel guilty?

I rarely talk about my family unless they or their problems are really affecting me or if we are dealing with past traumas. I don't really feel guilty about talking about them, but I do try to keep them out of my therapy space as much as possible. It's my space and I don't want to share it with them.

My family knows I don't talk much about them. They find it disappointing and reassuring. They fear that if I do talk about them it will be because of something bad. Yet if I don't talk about them, then they think they're not important.

Even though I don't often talk about them, L does know a lot about them mostly from my weekly update email.

The main thing I actually feel a little guilty for is the opposite. I feel guilty that I am closer to L than I am my own family. She is more important to me than they are. I don't love my family any less, but L is a priority to me.