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Originally Posted by unaluna
Isnt your family the elephant in the room? They are the reason i act and react in the weird ways that i do. I didnt come up with this shyte on my own. I was thwarted, deterred from my true path, blindsided, and gagged.
I just want to find the truth.
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For me personally, talking about my past isn't too important. I've already done that for years and have come to terms with my upbringing being traumatic. I can point fingers and place blame, but that does no good. Especially since I still want a relationship with these people. So my therapy focuses mostly on the present and future. We only use the past to connect dots or validate a reason.
As for bringing up family, I don't feel guilty even if what I'm talking about is negative. L is teaching me dialectics, holding the both/and, that people are all devil and all angel, and core-self. I think these are the reasons I don't feel guilty. Because I know and she knows that a person can do bad/negative things and not necessarily be a bad/negative person.
Just my experience though.