Interesting topic.
I met a young woman with that problem. I knew her mother, The mother was very critical, I noticed. Just a downer, always complaining. I understand her husband just up and left her at some point and didn't look back.
At any rate, I wonder if that had to do with the young woman's cringing when I complimented her on the food she'd brought to sale at an event.
Was your background anyway like that, jeremiah girl?